A Broken Sister Relationship
31 Day Simply Me Challenge
"While there may be a blood connection.......This doesn't always mean that there is a RELATIONSHIP between people who share blood and ancestors."
The quote above was how Iyanla begins to unpack the insightful episode. I can wholeheartedly relate because as the youngest of 4 ( 3 girls and 1 boy ) there is a 15 year age gap between me and the sister before me. Coming up, I felt like an only child. By the time I got to the developmental stage where building relationships was at the forefront of my understanding, my siblings were all adults.
Recently I was having a conversation that made me feel very unappreciated. My natural reaction was "WELL I MATTER TO ME." "I CHOOSE ME." The reality though was in the past year, I've pretty much ignored what I needed and wanted for the sake of others in my life. Don't get me wrong, my children are my heart and soul. Not a day goes by that I regret pouring into them the very best of me. To be honest, I take pride in pouring into my family, clients at work, my friends and my other half. HOWEVER, in the midst of me realizing how I've put myself dead last this year, I realized I can't pour from an empty cup!
My top five daily health
5 months ago, I decided to put a long time dream into motion. Honestly, it started off as just a creative outlet! Back in 2013, I had so many ideas and dreams for Beautifulshadesofme but LIFE got in the way and they were all put on hold. In July I decided to slowly start rolling out all of the plans I had so long ago.
As a mom, a professional or just an adult, life gets extremely "busy".
I've found that I'm either making my way through weeks at a time just going through the motions or very overtaken by the demands of life. I for one struggle with BALANCE
Recently, I've seen a quote "Stop The Glorification of Busy"
A young impressionable girl that didn't know any better until she tripped and scrapped her knees a few times. As a Mommy, Life Coach and Mentor, I am clear that these are things that young girls should be equipped with early on!
I remember it captured me sitting on the couch, long hair freshly pressed, looking over at the television. It was my birthday. The picture always struck me deep down inside because I remember being able to feel exactly what I felt the exact moment the picture was taken. That instance where you can literally relive a moment. The one thing the picture didn't capture was my crippling sadness. I sat on that couch in a long gray and black sweater and black leggings as if I was totally "together" instead feeling totally void. That photo reminds me of what I made it through!